“6 But the land could not support them while they stayed TOGETHER, for their possessions were so great that they were not able to stay together. 7 And QUARRELING AROSE between Abram’s herders and Lot’s…
8 So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herders and mine, for WE ARE CLOSE RELATIVES. 9 Is not the whole land before you? Let’s PART COMPANY. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.”
How many times, you’ve had a friend that seems to be
getting on your nerves whenever you talk to them? You feel they’re not fun to
be around anymore; they are complaining too much, or upset too much, or to
themselves too much… Perhaps you can feel
that they are brushing you off to the side? They do not call you as often or
anymore at all. Maybe you feel they’re the ones who are a bit impatient and up
tight with you or with your kids as you go visit and you do not know why.
When we were young and in school if a friend didn’t want to talk, it was fine, anyway we had hundreds of them, so we would just find someone else but now after we’re grown, we tend to stick to one or two friends, and when they don’t want to talk to us, it’s like the end of the world, we NEED to know what’s happening. Let me tell you, sometimes we do not know even as adults, how to deal with friendships because we’re not children anymore, and to get space from our friends feel like breaking the friendship. But I believe The Lord is telling us that is not about breaking a friendship; it’s about leaving some personal space in between where both parties can breathe easier. Think about when you go to the movies with a friend, not your loved one, just a friend or a sibling, if you see an empty row of chairs, and there’s only two of you, you seat by each other? Or like me, leave a chair in between? Leaving a chair in between, helps to leave the “extra” load we could be carrying, jackets, hand bags or others alike; this room allows each of you not to breathe each other’s air, it’s like adding personal space. And this sometimes is needed in our relationships, with either loved ones, coworkers or friends. Perhaps The Lord has to work with the two parties individually, and being so close, it’s not helping neither of you. Give it a try!
And next time, you feel a bit tight with your “next door” neighbor, or vice versa, ask The Lord, “do we need to expand our personal space?” Expanding your personal space, IS NOT, a sin! It’s not a matter of becoming enemies, it’s a way of resolving the matter with the purpose of personal development, as individuals, and sometimes if it’s a life-long relationship like family, this will preserve it. The gain will be greater than the pain; for you, for them, and for the younger generations that are witnessing the way we deal with life. And this friends, this is WISDOM!!!
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